Christian is standing with Oksana at the residents’ registration office. She has to give the addresses of her relatives. A tear rolls down her cheek because she had to leave her 21-year-old son behind in Ukraine and enters “barracks” with him. This is one of the few times Oksana will lose a tear after having to leave Ukraine, without her son and with only her 10-year-old daughter. “Otherwise, her descriptions are very neutral, her concerns pragmatic. We always have a lump in our throats when she talks about her life,” Christian says.

He and his family took in the mother and her daughter through #Unterkunft Ukraine. Christian was particularly impressed by the pragmatism that Oksana brought with her. “We were sitting in the car for five minutes when she already asked: I am a trained nurse – can you help me find a job?”, and to his surprise this was not a big challenge. “I am thrilled how quickly you can make a big difference”.

In no time, all the formalities were done, the daughter was registered at school and now Oksana has a first job interview. “In the process, all the worries we had before dissolved the second they were there. There was an immediate satisfaction of doing the right thing,” says Christian.

And even now, after one and a half weeks, the feeling is still there. “The important thing in the placement process is simply to do it,” Christian explains and adds: “But also to formulate limits. Because Christian had to turn down his first placement. “I felt really bad, but two adults just don’t fit in the flat. The #Unterkunft Ukraine team made it clear to me on the phone that it’s okay and important to be honest with what you can give.” Once you’ve clarified your options, however, she says it’s important to be helpful. “We live 2000 km away and we have everything. People come who only have two plastic bags left. There is already a responsibility derived from that.”

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